Feeling Safe Again: How to Take Care of Yourself and Find Peace

Have you ever felt like something was missing, like you’re always on edge, not truly relaxed or happy? You’re not alone. Many people feel this way, and it often comes down to one thing: not feeling safe. Feeling safe isn't just about physical safety; it's also about feeling secure in who you are, knowing that you’re cared for, and that you belong. But sometimes, life takes away that feeling, and it can be hard to get it back.

A lot of people go through life without realizing how important it is to feel safe. According to a study by the American Psychological Association, feeling secure is one of the basic needs we all have, right alongside food, water, and shelter. When we don't feel safe, it affects everything—from our happiness to our ability to take care of ourselves and others.

But here's the good news: you can regain that sense of safety and peace. This blog will show you how to recognize what's holding you back, how to take steps to feel secure again, and how to truly care for yourself.

Why Don’t I Feel Safe?

Before you can start feeling safe again, it's important to understand why you might not feel that way now. There are often a few common reasons that people struggle with this.

The Weight of Feeling Unappreciated

One major barrier to feeling safe is not feeling appreciated. When we don’t feel like others value us, it’s hard to feel secure. We start to question our worth and whether we really belong anywhere.

Anecdote: Think about a time when you did something nice for someone, but they didn’t say thank you. It might have made you feel invisible or like your efforts didn’t matter. When this happens often, it’s easy to start feeling unsafe in your relationships.

Forgetting to Take Care of Yourself

Another reason you might not feel safe is that you’re not taking care of your own needs. When we neglect ourselves—whether it’s by not eating well, not getting enough sleep, or not taking time to relax—we start to feel run down and insecure.

Anecdote: Imagine driving a car that’s low on gas, with a flat tire and no oil change for months. It wouldn’t feel safe to drive, right? The same goes for your body and mind. If you don’t take care of them, they won’t feel safe either.

Steps to Start Feeling Safe Again

Now that you know what might be causing you to feel unsafe, let's talk about how you can start to change that. The first step is understanding that you deserve to feel safe and cared for, both by others and by yourself.

Start by Appreciating Yourself

The first thing you can do is start showing yourself some appreciation. Often, we wait for others to appreciate us, but sometimes we need to take the first step ourselves. When you recognize your own worth, it becomes easier to feel safe and secure.

Tip: Every day, write down three things you did well, no matter how small. This could be as simple as getting out of bed on a tough day or finishing a task at work. Over time, this helps build a sense of self-worth and safety.

Take Care of Your Basic Needs

Just like the car in the earlier example, you need to take care of yourself to feel safe. This means making sure you eat well, get enough sleep, and take breaks when you need them.

Statistic: A report from the National Sleep Foundation found that people who don’t get enough sleep are more likely to feel anxious and unsafe. Making sure you get enough rest is crucial to your sense of security.

Tip: Create a bedtime routine that helps you relax and stick to it. This could include turning off screens an hour before bed, reading a book, or listening to calming music.

A Guide to Building a Safe Space for Yourself

Now that you understand what’s been holding you back and how to start changing it, let's dive into some practical steps you can take to create a safe and peaceful environment for yourself.

Step 1: Set Boundaries

One of the most important things you can do to feel safe is to set boundaries. This means knowing what you’re comfortable with and being able to say no when something doesn’t feel right.

Tip: Practice saying no to small things first, like declining an invitation when you’re too tired to go out. Over time, this will help you feel more in control and secure in your life.

Step 2: Surround Yourself with Support

Feeling safe often comes from knowing that you have people around you who care about you and have your back. It’s important to build a support system that you can rely on.

Tip: Reach out to a friend or family member you trust and make plans to spend time together. Even a simple phone call can help remind you that you’re not alone.

Step 3: Make Time for Self-Care

Taking time for yourself is not selfish—it’s necessary. Whether it’s taking a hot bath, going for a walk, or spending time on a hobby you love, self-care helps you recharge and feel safe.

Tip: Schedule a specific time each day just for you, even if it’s just 15 minutes. Use this time to do something that makes you feel good and relaxed.

How to Keep the Momentum Going

Healing and feeling safe again is a journey, and it’s important to keep moving forward, even when it’s hard.

Celebrate Small Wins

Every step you take toward feeling safe is worth celebrating. Whether it’s setting a boundary, taking time for yourself, or simply getting through a tough day, acknowledge your progress.

Success Story: Jane, a client of Worcester Holistic Health & Wellness, started feeling more secure by setting small goals for herself. At first, she focused on getting enough sleep, then on setting boundaries at work. Over time, she noticed a big improvement in how safe and valued she felt.

Stay Committed to Yourself

Healing takes time, and it’s important to stay committed to yourself through the process. Remember that you deserve to feel safe and that you have the power to create that safety in your life.

Quote: “Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.” – Akshay Dubey

Dr. Peter Gagliardo’s Advice

Dr. Peter Gagliardo from Worcester Holistic Health & Wellness has helped many people regain their sense of safety and peace. “Feeling safe is about more than just physical security; it’s about emotional and mental well-being too,” says Dr. Gagliardo. “The key is to start by taking small steps to care for yourself and set boundaries that protect your peace.”

Dr. Gagliardo also emphasizes the importance of patience. “Healing is a process, and it’s important to be kind to yourself along the way. Don’t rush it—give yourself the time and space you need to truly feel safe again.”

Ready to Feel Safe Again? Start Your Journey with Us

If you’re ready to start feeling safe and secure in your life, Worcester Holistic Health & Wellness is here to help. Schedule a free discovery session today by visiting www.worcesterholistic.com. Our team is dedicated to helping you take the steps needed to create a safe and peaceful life.

Don’t wait—take the first step toward feeling safe and cared for today!

Feeling safe is one of the most important parts of living a happy and healthy life. By understanding what’s been holding you back, taking steps to care for yourself, and staying committed to your healing journey, you can start to feel secure again. Remember, it’s okay to take it one step at a time. You deserve to feel safe, and you have the power to create that feeling in your life.